In 2025 I married SIX sets of twins. In the UK right now, one in 65 pregnancies results in twins, so I think my twin-marrying stats are pretty high for this year. Each couple found a different, special way of including the twin sibling in their wedding ceremony or the day itself. If you are a twin, or a multiple, how can you include your twin in your wedding ceremony?
None of the six sets of twins I married this year actually asked my advice on how to include their twins, they simply knew right from the start what they would like, because that’s the closeness of twins.
My conclusion is, that the answer is nothing to do with your twin status. It’s about how you want to structure your wedding ceremony. All wedding ceremonies I create are totally individual. Some focus entirely on you. Some are designed to bring branches of your family tree closer around you. Many draw in your friends to add context to your love story.
Twin roles at your ceremony should about inclusion and intentional homage than obligation. Twins can be groomsmen, best men, readers, confetti Bettys, maids of honour or simply, guests. There’s some logic to suggest that, as the other half of your childhood and the sharer of many of your experiences, they deserve two things; firstly, a position from which they can simply immerse themselves in your ceremony and enjoy it along with you, feeling every moment, and, secondly, an active role where they can celebrate you openly. But, twinship doesn’t always equal emotional closeness. And, on the day where you commit to another human being to walk through life side by side with, one could argue that being flanked closely by a sibling at all times could feel difficult.
IDEAS FOR TWIN INCLUSION IN WEDDING CEREMONIES
- Your twin could walk you down the aisle, or part of the way down, to signify the change of chapters in your life
- You could have a ‘first look’ with your twin before the ceremony
- Your twin could give a wedding reading. In October, Tish’s twin sister wrote a poem based on the Star Wars universe and the Jedi principles of love for her sister
- Your twin could give a speech at your wedding meal
- Your twin could give part of the wedding ceremony, such as your ring exchange or your commitments
The more I write this, the more I realise this issue is incredibly nuanced. Twinship is complex. Your wedding ceremony is not necessarily the place to make a statement about how emotionally close you are to your twin, but it is a fabulous forum to include them if you wish to. Keep it honest and natural. Reflect yourself in your wedding ceremony, not the expectations of others.
A couple of my twin weddings can be seen here (Claire has a twin brother) and here (Danielle and Luke are BOTH identical twins!).
